Frequently Asked Questions



What if my child’s birthday isn’t until midway through the session, when can they participate?

If your child turns 13 during a session (Sept to May), we will usually have them wait until the following year to move up the teen group as we generally find that youth do better staying with their cohort within the club. If they are waiting to start until they turn 10 (or 13) we will consider mid-year registrations on a case by case basis to ensure that the youth are able to merge with the rest of the group in a successful and supportive way.

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My child is reluctant to attend because they don’t know anyone, do you have suggestions?

We understand that teens and tweens don't want parents or professionals selecting friends for them. Can Pact guarantee that each tween & teen will have fun or connect with this group? No. Is pushing attendance just setting up another source of ammunition for them to say, "I told you so," if they don't have a good time? Maybe. Is it worth a try to give them an opportunity to find a group that may feel like a better fit than some others? Yes. We know that it has worked for many participants, who once they joined have found the experience to be fun, rewarding and worth returning to each month.

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Can my child try out Teen or Tween Club without making a commitment for the year?

It is hard for adolescents to come into pre-established groups/communities and not feel like an outsider when there is not consistency in their attendance. We encourage families to sign their kids up for the entire season, because we do allow you a grace period to cancel and only be charged for three meetings if they decide they don’t like it after trying it at least a couple of times. For more information contact Deanna Matthews at deanna@pactadopt.org.

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Can my child bring a friend to the Club?

If your child’s friend is also adopted then yes they may come, so long as the other child’s parent and/or guardian has registered them to attend. If they are not adopted nor your child’s sibling then Pact’s Clubs will not be the appropriate time for your child to spend time with their friend as our focus is on promoting relationships with youth who share their experiences of adoption, race and identity.

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What are the races of the children that attend Pact Teen and Tween Clubs?

At Pact we are inclusive of adopted children of color of all races and ethnicities because we believe that they have much in common with one another despite their differing racial and/or ethnic experiences. Fundamentally all adopted people of color tell us that race matters and adoption matters and we provide curriculum and a community that supports these commonalities, so that children and youth can learn how to find and recognize allies within their own communities. Over the last several years, 70-75% of the youth in attendance are African American or part African American, and 25-30% are split evenly between Latino and Asian ethnicities. There are also a small number of white siblings and adoptees in attendance. We carefully hire our counselor and program/curriculum staff to reflect the children’s racial/ethnic demographics so that youth in most groups not only have peers who share their racial group but also at least one counselor. The Pact community is intentionally inclusive and proactively anti-racist.

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What are the payment options for Pact’s Tween and Teen Club?

You can pay the full t(w)een club fee at registration or select a payment plan. If you choose the payment plan, there is a $100 fee. You will be required to pay an initial deposit of $100 plus the $100 payment plan fee to register; you will then provide us with credit card information so that you can be charged in regular equal installments on the first of each month (Oct, Nov & Dec) so that payment is completed in full no later than December. In special circumstances of need we can accommodate longer payment periods, please contact deanna@pactadopt.org if you have such a need.

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Why does attendance at individual sessions cost so much?

We contract our teen & teen club mentors for the entire season based on the number of youth that are signed up for the year keeping the number of mentors at a 5:1 ratio to ensure a safe and supportive environment that allows them to be able to spend one on one time with youth who need special attention. Hiring and training high caliber staff along with providing food and activities for the youth make this an expensive program that costs Pact almost $70 per youth per meeting; our sliding scale allows those of lesser means to receive subsidies and asks those with more means to help cover the cost for those youth who otherwise would not be able to afford to attend.

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