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What Adopted Children (and their parents) Need To Know- Ages 6-9 years old

Start time/date: Apr  5, 2014 9:30 AM
End time/date: Apr  5, 2014 12:00 PM
Place: Pact, an adoption alliance
5515 Doyle Street Suite 1, Emeryville CA 94608

What Adopted Children (and their parents) Need To Know- Ages 6-9 years old


5515 DOYLE STREET Suite 1

Emeryville, CA 94608

(at the corner of Doyle St & 55th St.)

Adult Workshop (no childcare available)

Children at this age see themselves in terms of what they can do, and begin to compare themselves to their peers. They do not like to be different, unless that difference is along the lines of “I can read better than anyone in my class” or “I can run faster than most of my friends.”  At this age, teasing among peers often becomes a factor. Having differences in family structure and/or racial identification pointed out can make elementary school kids very uncomfortable. Even when it is clear that their teacher is being supportive in talking about adoption, race or family structure, they may not want to participate. School assignments that set children up as different from the other children in their class may provoke emotional conflicts. Children at this age use their developing conceptual skills to figure out how and why adoption happened to them. Around ages six or seven, they may become absorbed in the struggle to understand, and might appear unfocused or distracted at school. If they are struggling with painful feelings of loss or rejection, they may act those feelings out in their behaviors. Often by the age of nine or ten, they have come to terms with their new, and own (?) understanding of what it means to be adopted.


  • Becoming conceptual thinkers
  • Understanding adoption – gains & losses, exploring feelings
  • Skills & competence – managing learning, school and peer groups
  • Small groups:
    • Emotion coaching – learning to manage their feelings
    • School challenges
    • AdopTalk – facts & myths, privacy vs secrecy
    • Breaking the racial sound barrier – how much diversity matters?


Beth Hall is the white adoptive mother of a Latina daughter and an African American son (both now young adults), and grew up with an adopted sister. She co-founded Pact in 1991 to combat the discrimination she witnessed against adopted children of color and their birth families. Since that time, she has facilitated the placement of over 1000 infants of color into strong, loving homes. She is the co-author, with Gail Steinberg, of the book Inside Transracial Adoption, as well as numerous articles on adoption and race. She is a nationally known advocate for adopted children of color who regularly lectures and leads workshops on ethical, non-racist adoption practices. In 2010 she received the Outstanding Practitioner in Adoption Award from the Adoption Initiative at St. John's University.

Pricing Description:

 $50.00 / per person

At door registration $75/ per person

Pact members receive a 15% discount to workshop registrations

Please choose carefully when registering for Pact events. Pact is not in a position to refund workshop or event registration fees.

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