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an african american adopted young girl Mindful of the unique issues inherent to the experience of being adopted, we recognize the developmental stages children experience which affect their understanding and questions about being adopted. Understanding behavior as the language of children, we provide research-based tips for understanding a child's point of view and feelings about adoption along with practical guidance on how to create a plan for sharing information and managing the unknowns. Being asked to "tell their story" is a common experience for adopted people of all ages, one that can stir up a complicated mix of emotions. Often children and youth are left to figure out their own narrative, fill in the gaps, and find the boundaries for what part of their story is theirs alone and what they share with their families and the world. Articles include tools that can be used by and for children in various age groups and adults to help kids handle questions about adoption from others, including family members, friends, teachers and strangers.

Speaking honestly and supportively about adoption is a core value for Pact, woven into all the programs and services we offer. We help parents of children of all ages find the language they need, initiate “difficult” conversations, and support their children in owning their own life-stories. We offer pre-placement consultations and placement services for prospective parents who are looking to adopt a child of color as their first choice. We also offer support for adoptive parents who have already adopted (or are considering adopting) children of color through our online chat groups, our educational workshops and conferences, our nationally acclaimed Pact Family Camp, one-on-one consultations focused on the special issues inherent to adoptive parenting, and regional parent-organized affiliates in Northern California, Southern California, and throughout the U.S. Become a member of Pact to take advantage of all these resources and to receive our newsletter, Pact’s Point of View, which features many personal stories and informational articles about adoption, parenting, and race. Pact members receive a discount at our online bookstore, which features great reads on adoption carefully selected for both adults and kids of all ages. We also recommend blogs and other online resources that we believe have the very best advice and information for adoptive families of children of color about adoption, race, and parenting.

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Talking with Children about Adoption Articles

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Secrecy Versus Privacy when Talking about Adoption

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The Importance of Talking about Birth Parents

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Responding to Intrusive Questions from Strangers

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What Is Pact Camp?

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